Mondays, Feb - Mar 23, 2026 7-9:00 PM PST Online, Zoom
This offer includes 10.5 hours of live facilitated practice and guided home practices and short videos between sessions.
The Wheel of Consent® is a groundbreaking framework and awareness practice developed by Dr. Betty Martin. Since its inception, it has been brought into schools, universities, therapist programs, and organizations around the world, reshaping how practitioners are trained.
This is a deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an embodied process that brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into all human interactions. Our lens starts with the personal and expands to the global. It includes touch, relationships, power dynamics, and social issues of equality and justice.
The practice is simple, subtle, and profound.
In this practice, we develop our capacity to tune into our bodies and our ability to skillfully and gracefully navigate interactions and dynamics in intimate and professional relationships.
You will come away from this offering with a deepened ability to navigate consent in all your interactions, including these practical embodied skills:
໑ Create a felt sense of safety in your body and nervous system
໑ Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
໑ Notice, value, and voice what you want, what you are available for, and what you don’t want
໑ Notice your tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
໑ Be mindful of others' tendencies to go along with what is being done and respect their limits
໑ Access two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
໑ Navigate power dynamics, trauma, and systemic oppression and their impact on our capacity to access choice and respect boundaries
໑ Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others
໑ Express your desires, limits, preferences, and willingness with more nuance and play
Our increased awareness enables more authentic relationships centered in safety, clarity, and ease.
Applied professionally, it makes us more effective practitioners, able to affect human change and healing.
Applied personally, it allows us to access deeper and more meaningful connections.
Course details
Dates: Feb 2, 9, 16, 23**, Mar 2, 9, 16
Hours: Mondays 4-6 PM Pacific, 7-9 PM Eastern
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** Feb 23 is a 1 hr long practice session
We share brief instructional videos, optional home practice, and resources between sessions.
We have found that watching the recordings and engaging with the practices between the live sessions will deepen your learnings.
Max 20 participants, Min 8*
* We will postpone, with full refunds, if we have not reached the minimum of 8 registered participants by Jan 27.
Sliding Scale Tickets (includes the 10.5 hours of facilitated practices, home practices, and videos)
Ocean: $625 USD + GST (have investments, can afford travel/vacations)
Lake: $525 USD + GST (stable income or access to financial support)
Pond: $425 USD + GST (can afford occasional treats)
Puddle: $250 USD + GST (closer to living wage)
Contact Helena for CAD and payment plan options.
What participants say
"Life-altering" ~ Clinical Counsellor
"I know myself WAY more. I am trusting my impulses, my no's and yes's and I am able to voice them more clearly now. I am grateful for this modality. It is a gentle, deep, and foundational piece for creating healthy, safe, and intimate relationships with oneself and others." ~ Teacher
“This was transformative for me in many ways.” ~ Sexual Health Educator
"A big thank you. This stuff is simple, in a way, but revolutionizing. I share in another participant's reflection that they feel grief for not having known this sooner, and gratitude that I know it now."
"I feel it impacting every relationship I have. I feel more thoughtful when I decide to offer something, and I feel more intentional about when I decide to receive something. My relationships feel richer already."
"Extremely thoughtful and thought-provoking workshop."
Training Guidelines
How we ask that you engage with each other:
1. Confidentiality — outside the practices and the group, share only your own experience and learnings. We ask that you attend the sessions from a quiet space and use headphones if anyone is in the same room as you. No recording or screenshots of each other.
2. All feelings are welcome and do not need to be justified or explained; honor the feelings that arise in others by allowing them to feel without fixing or advising.
3. Share with intention, using "I" statements. Bring awareness to power. Listen with attention.
4. Orient towards care. Use the names and pronouns people request, and honour the lived experience of those in the group. Bring curiosity and set aside assumptions about people's identities and experiences (e.g. gender, racialization, sexuality, etc.).
5. Stay within the stated limits of each practice. The workshop is clothed. We will not state wants for, or make requests or offers for unclothed or genital touch during exercises. There will be options to engage in practices with other participants and it is not required.
What we invite for your own experience:
1. Invite beginner’s mind — everything we offer is an experiment and an opportunity to notice yourself; take what works for you and leave the rest.
2. Do not do anything you do not want to do.
3. Choosing is more important than doing. Participation can look many ways and you choose how you want to participate — actively join an exercise, witness, journal, take a break, and change your mind at any time. You get the full value from the workshop however you choose to participate.
4. Self-care and self-regulation — take care of your needs (for water, rest, movement, etc.)
Accessibility
໑ Closed captions are available during the sessions.
໑ All sessions are recorded in speaker view and available to attendees for 2 months after the last session.
໑ You have the options to participate with video, audio, and via the chat. If you do not want your video or audio to be recorded, we will pause the recording at your request.
໑ We ask that you have your camera on for the introductions in the first session. After that, you may turn your camera off whenever it supports your participation.
Acknowledgments About Racialization, Neurodivergence, Disabilities
The course is open to anyone interested in learning the Wheel, and our intention is for this to be a safe enough space for learning for everyone.
As a facilitators and humans, Helena and Jax are committed to serving you as best as possible. We recognize that this offering cannot meet everyone’s needs. Please email Helena to let us know your questions or accessibility needs, and they will do their best to accommodate them.
Refund policy
If you are unable to attend, you may choose to have your payment refunded minus an administration fee, according to the following schedule:
More than 30 days before the event: Full refund, less $30 admin fee
15-30 days before the event: 50% refund, or, if you can fill your spot with someone else, a full refund
Less than 15 days before the event: No refunds, or unless you/we can fill your spot with someone else*
*In cases of illness or family emergency, we will endeavor to refund your full tuition less any unrecoverable costs, or transfer to a future offering.
About the facilitators
Helena De Felice (they/she) is a Certified Facilitator of the Wheel of Consent® and has been facilitating Wheel practices since 2016.
Helena is passionate about developing individual and collective awareness that deepens our capacity to facilitate healing. Her facilitation is deeply trauma-responsive and non-judgemental, informed by many years in the field of prevention and response to gender-based violence, senior leadership roles in sexual and reproductive rights, attending births, deaths, and leading queer-centric erotic healing events. They have offered Wheel of Consent® trainings to hundreds of participants, in a wide range of settings, and trains facilitators and practitioners in trauma-responsive facilitation skills.
Some identities and presentations where Helena holds unearned and earned rank in many settings: white, European, upper-middle working class upbringing, educated, mostly able-bodied, looks and size close to mainstream beauty standards, Swedish and English language fluency, travelled, regular access to their ancestral lands, married and straight-passing, and supported by loving partner, colleagues, family, friends, and community. With the following experiences Helena has navigated marginalization: femme, queer, trauma from many dimensions including CSA, SA, and coercive control, burnout, invisibly disabled, gender queer, immigrant, neurodivergent, English as a second language, activist, polyamorous, self-employed.
Jax is dedicated to fostering safer, inclusive spaces for pleasure and intimacy as a Consent and Intimacy Coach, Guide, Educator, Consultant, and Platonic and Erotic Bodyworker. Specializing in somatically focused coaching and education, Jax aims to empower Black, POC, Queer, and gender expansive individuals across the East Coast. Through one-on-one sessions, workshops, and community events, Jax facilitates meaningful experiences where everyone feels valued and respected. Jax has conducted dynamic consent workshops, tailored for diverse communities, and curated monthly platonic cuddle events, emphasizing consent and respect. Additionally, Jax offers consulting services on consent, inclusivity, and program development. Certified in various fields including Erosomatic Touch & Sensual Doula, and a member of the ACSB, Jax continuously seeks opportunities to learn and grow.
Jax is a Black, Queer, Neurodivergent Femme who is also an English speaking, college educated, military veteran who is mostly able bodied with some non-visible disabilities. She is both self-employed and traditionally employed as a single, solo polyamorous person navigating capitalism.
Why are we teaming up with this offering?
Jax and Helena have collaborated in offering The Wheel of Consent for Queers. We are deeply aligned in our commitment to facilitate this practice with compassion and warmth. Our complementary experiences widen the spectrum of what we can hold. We recognize the liberatory and healing potential of this practice When we feel safe-enough and move slowly enough, with care and curiosity, our unconscious impulses to attempt to access safety through others (e.g. people pleasing, fawning, control patterns) can loosen, more of our personal power can emerge, and new habits can form.